The message of my experience is that forgiveness, especially after experiencing deep betrayals and heavy debts caused by those I once trusted, is not just important for my healing process. Only through true forgiveness, I find lasting peace, release burdens from the past, and begin to heal myself. To illustrate how forgiveness became so essential in my journey, I look back to 2001, when I entered an arranged marriage, leaving behind someone I deeply loved to honour my family's expectations. Over the years, we had four children, and I used all my assets to settle his enormous debts. Later, I discovered that he had been unfaithful from 2006 to 2023. Beyond the emotional betrayal, his professional failures left me with billions in debt. I struggle to understand how someone with seven years of religious education could act this way, expecting that his background would provide a stronger moral compass to protect our marriage.
1. Praying and Cursing
- Many believe that the prayers of a wronged person (someone oppressed or "dizalimi") are especially powerful and easily answered [06:12]. However, Bunda clarifies that if I use that power to wish for someone’s downfall or suffering, it is not a prayer—it is a curse [14:10]. So far, I have often cursed at the man.
- Real prayer is always connected to God’s greatness and goodness. It should aim for reconciliation, success, and health [14:24]. Honestly, I did not realise that cursing can prevent my prayer from being completed.
- Nature follows the law of Tabur Tuai. When I plant a curse or a negative thought, it eventually returns to you, making my own life more difficult and complicated [15:22, 44:41].
The video features a discussion with women who have faced deep betrayals:
- Rina has been struggling with an unfaithful husband and neglectful in-laws. She admitted to praying for her husband's life to fall apart [02:51].
- Atik shared her journey of being pregnant out of wedlock and abandoned. By choosing to forgive and focus on the blessing of her child, she found peace and relieved herself of chronic stomach acid (GERD) caused by stress [08:20,09:45].
- Ayu deals with family friction and feeling unprotected by her husband. She learned that even these accidental family ties are part of a karmic debt that must be settled peacefully [19:08].
- The first step is to accept destiny. I learned to recognize that my current challenges, including difficult partners or in-laws, are part of my soul map or karma. I could not run from them, but I could only choose how to respond [20:53].
- The second step is to involve Divine Power. Bunda Arsaningsih emphasizes that human strength alone is insufficient to truly heal deep wounds [22:20]. So I must connect with God's power (Nur Ilahi) to expand my heart as wide as a field [23:55].
- The third step is the method of Forgive, Apologize, and Forget:
- Forgiving others is to release the fire of resentment that burns me [07:55].
- Apologizing to others is actually for my own role in the conflict, as every relationship involves two sides [35:02].
- Forgiving myself is to stop the cycle of self-blame and allow my inner beauty and aura to glow again [36:04,37:44].
- The first piece of advice is to control my thoughts. Energy follows thought. If I think someone will fall, so the negative energy is recorded in nature [28:53]. So I need to be selective and stay positive to protect my own future.
- The second piece of advice is to view everyone, even those who hurt me, as teachers who bring lessons necessary for my growth and change [27:37].
- The third piece of advice relates to measurable change. Using Soul Meter, Bunda demonstrates that as anger decreases and forgiveness increases, a person's energy levels and aura measurably improve [40:22].
- If I want a peaceful life, I should stop the bad prayers. By involving God’s power to forgive, I extinguish the fire of anger and create a quality of life full of light and peace 47:51].
The video features Rina, who discovers that her husband is with another woman. Rina was betrayed and left to manage the household and debts alone, mirroring my own experience. Bunda Arsaningsih explains that wishing for the other’s suffering is natural, but holding onto such feelings blocks financial and emotional healing. She notes that anger and resentment also make daily life and professional work more difficult. venge' cannot attract light and goodness. By releasing the anger toward the past (2006–2023), I may find the aura of my life begins to change, potentially easing the bad luck I have felt recently. A key point in the video is that forgiveness is not for the person who hurt me; it is for my own physical health.
The video offers a perspective on those who have wronged me, such as the man or in-laws, as teachers, highlighting karmic debts, and describing a process of spiritual purification. Once I sincerely surrender the injustice to a higher power, I can let go of the ties to their negativity. So, I cannot be full of anger and then be grateful at the same time. For my path forward, I need to forgive myself and connect with God.
Forgiving myself for the choices made under pressure or the years spent in debt. While relying on a higher spiritual power to carry the burden that is too heavy for one person. The main takeaway is that recent struggles may signal the end of old burdens. By embracing forgiveness and making peace with my past, I can close the cycle of suffering and begin a new chapter.
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