DESTINY OR FATE

This is the story of how I stopped asking why life happened to me, and started understanding how it was happening for my soul's evolution. I grew up in the warmth of a harmonious home, believing that goodness was hereditary. I thought if my parents were happy, I was guaranteed the same. But in 2001, I entered a marriage forced by tradition and fueled by a false assumption that a religious boarding background is a shield against betrayal. But it wasn’t. I spent nearly twenty years trying to fix a life that felt shattered by other people's choices.

My quest for answers took me across borders spiritually, psychologically, intellectually, and professionally. I sought out religious teachers across East Java, asking the hard questions about divine justice. From Sydney to Jakarta, I attended hundreds of hypnotherapy sessions. I built a library of thousands of books, trying to master the mind that felt like my own prison. I sat with psychologists and doctors, seeking a clinical cure for a soul-level wound.

My life was full of tragedy. I emphasized the shift from harmony and prosperity to the shattered reality to show the irony of my situation for almost 3 decades. I did everything right. I studied, I consulted, and I prayed. Yet, the deeper I dug into the how of my mind, the more the why of my soul remained a mystery. It wasn't until I stopped looking for what was wrong with me and started looking at the ancient laws of Karma and Reincarnation that the pieces finally began to click.

This video emphasizes that life is a school for the soul to reach higher awareness. I have watched it 8 times, and still got different perspectives on my soul evolution. This video is an episode from the Karma & Reincarnation podcast series, featuring Bunda Arsaningsih and dr. Rastho. The discussion focuses on how karma and past lives shape what we perceive as destiny and how we can practically change our future outcomes.

Many people feel life is unfair when they see others born into wealth or beauty while they struggle despite hard work. From the perspective of karma and reincarnation, life is actually perfectly just. What we experience as destiny today is the harvest of seeds we planted in our previous lives [03:59].

Destiny is not an arbitrary decision by God; it is a result of our own actions through the law of cause and effect. Even though we do not remember our past lives, our "soul records" (rekaman jiwa) persist. These records act like a magnet, attracting life conditions that match the energy we have cultivated [06:44].

The video also identifies common ways people react to difficult destinies, such as: complaining, giving up, and acceptance with awareness [19:18]. The first reaction is that people likely complaining or blaming others, directing frustration toward God, parents, or the environment [16:13]. The second reaction is passive resignation. The people just gave up and accept a bad fate without trying to improve, which can actually create more negative energy [20:13]. And the third reaction is the way people accept with awareness. They understand that current hardships are past debts. Therefore, they decide to start planting new, positive seeds through character improvement [27:13].

While destiny (what is inherited from the past) is set, the fate (future trajectory) can be changed [54:18]. The key is to shift our internal energy and soul records through spiritual knowledge and self-work. When our internal vibration changes, the physical reality you attract also changes [44:55]. With Soul Meter (a method to measure energy radiation), an individual can logically identify which parts of their energy map are negative and create a strategy to fix their fate [54:18].

Gemini saidBased

Gemini said

Since then, I stopped trying to defend my destiny on why my life was unfair. My academic eagerness to find the key finally led me to the realization that the key wasn't more information. It was consciousness. I realized that my parents—who I had long blamed for their wrong choice—were actually my partners in this spiritual evolution. They closed their eyes in 2001 and 2014, but they left me with the fieldwork I needed to complete.

Rather than feeling like a victim of circumstance, I was encouraged to take responsibility by sowing as much kindness and positive energy as possible to ensure a better harvest in the future. I take my own new fate for my further stories.

I am still a researcher. But today, I no longer study my mind to fix it. I study my life to honor it. The awareness in me finally found the ultimate truth. I cannot solve a spiritual debt with only a logical mind. I should dissolve it through the heart. By taking responsibility for my records and choosing to heal rather than complain, I am successfully transforming a challenging destiny into a peaceful and empowered fate.